Attachment & Relationship Patterns

Attachment refers to the ways you learned to relate to others, particularly around closeness, trust, safety, and emotional connection. These patterns often develop early in life, but they continue to shape how you experience relationships as an adult.

You may notice recurring difficulties in relationships that feel confusing or frustrating, even when you are trying hard to do things differently.

I offer online therapy across the UK for adults who want to understand their attachment patterns and how these show up in relationships, self-worth, and emotional wellbeing.

You may be considering therapy because relationships feel harder than they should, or because similar issues keep repeating despite your best efforts.

You might recognise yourself if:
- You feel anxious about closeness, rejection, or abandonment
- You pull away or shut down when relationships become emotionally close
- You struggle to trust others or rely on them
- You find yourself over-giving, people-pleasing, or monitoring others’ moods
- Relationships leave you feeling unseen, unsafe, or emotionally exhausted

These patterns are not character flaws. They are often understandable responses to earlier experiences and can be explored and changed in therapy.

f you tend toward anxious attachment, you may feel highly attuned to others and sensitive to signs of distance or change.

You might experience:
- Fear of being left or replaced
- A strong need for reassurance
- Difficulty tolerating emotional distance
- Intense emotional responses within relationships

Therapy can help you understand where this anxiety comes from, regulate emotional overwhelm, and develop a greater sense of security within yourself and your relationships.

If you tend toward avoidant attachment, closeness may feel uncomfortable or overwhelming, even when you want connection.

You may notice:
- Pulling away when things feel emotionally intense
- Difficulty expressing needs or vulnerability
- A strong need for independence or self-reliance
- Feeling trapped, numb, or disconnected in relationships

Therapy offers a space to explore these patterns safely, at your pace, without pressure to change before you are ready.

Attachment patterns often influence how you see yourself in relation to others.

You may struggle with:
- Setting or maintaining boundaries
- Feeling responsible for others’ emotions
- Self-criticism or low self-worth
- Staying in relationships that don’t meet your needs

Therapy can help you recognise these patterns, strengthen boundaries, and develop relationships that feel more balanced and respectful.

Attachment patterns are often shaped by early relationships, but they can also be influenced by later experiences such as trauma, loss, illness, or emotionally unsafe relationships.

You do not need to have clear memories or a specific story for therapy to be helpful. Together, we can explore how your past experiences may be influencing your present without blaming or pathologising you.

My approach is:
- Person-centred
- Trauma-informed
- Relational and collaborative

Therapy is not about labelling you or forcing you into a category. It is about understanding how you relate, why these patterns make sense, and how you want to experience relationships moving forward.

Sessions are paced carefully and focus on building emotional safety, awareness, and choice.

Attachment refers to the patterns you developed around closeness, safety, and connection with others. In therapy, we explore how these patterns show up in your relationships and emotional responses today.

Yes. Attachment patterns are not fixed. With awareness, support, and safe relational experiences, it is possible to develop more secure ways of relating to yourself and others.

No. You do not need to label yourself or understand attachment theory before beginning therapy. We can explore what feels relevant together, at a pace that feels manageable.

Not at all. While early experiences can be important, therapy focuses on how attachment shows up in your current life and relationships, including work, friendships, and intimate partnerships.

Yes. Many people find online therapy offers a sense of safety and consistency that supports attachment work, particularly when sessions are paced and collaborative.

If you are curious about therapy but unsure where to start, I offer a free, no-obligation introductory call.

This gives you space to:
- Talk about what you are noticing in your relationships
- Ask questions about how therapy works
- See whether working together feels right

👉 You don’t need to change who you are to be worthy of connection.
👉 You deserve relationships that feel safe, balanced, and respectful.

Get in touch to book an appointment to start your healing journey.