Couples Counselling

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             Relationships can be one of the most important parts of our lives, and also one of the most difficult.

Sometimes things drift. Communication breaks down. The same arguments come up again and again, or things go quiet in a way that doesn’t feel comfortable. You might feel misunderstood, distant, or unsure how to get back to how things once felt.

You don’t have to be on the edge of breaking up to come to counselling. Often, people come because something just doesn’t feel right anymore, and they don’t want it to stay that way.

I welcome individuals and couples of all sexual orientations, including gay and same-sex couples, and have experience working with same-sex relationships in my practice.

In our sessions, there’s space for both of you.

That might sound obvious, but in day-to-day life it can be hard to feel heard, especially when emotions are running high or when you’ve both been carrying things for a long time.

My role isn’t to take sides or decide who is right or wrong. Instead, I help you slow things down and really hear each other, often in ways that haven’t quite been possible before.

Sometimes that means untangling misunderstandings.

Sometimes it means saying things out loud that have been sitting underneath for a while.

And sometimes it’s about making sense of why certain patterns keep repeating.

For many couples, it’s not one big issue, but the way things are said, or not said, over time.

Conversations can turn into arguments quickly, or stop altogether. You might find yourselves going round in circles, having the same disagreements without anything really changing. Or perhaps things feel quieter than they used to, but not in a comfortable way.

It’s common for one of you to feel unheard, while the other feels criticised or misunderstood. Over time, this can create distance, even when you both still care deeply about the relationship.

In counselling, we slow things down.

That might mean looking at how you speak to each other, but also what’s underneath that. Often, it’s not just about the words being used, but the feelings behind them. Feeling hurt, not valued, or unsure how to say what you really need.

We create space for both of you to express yourselves in a way that can actually be heard, without it immediately turning into conflict or withdrawal.

From there, we can begin to understand each other differently, and find ways of communicating that feel clearer, calmer, and more connected.

Sometimes, the commitment to ongoing counselling just doesn't feel like the right step right now. Despite that, you both know that something isn't quite where you'd like it to be. That's why I introduced the Relationship Health Check.

Think of it as an MOT for your relationship. In a focused 90-minute session, we'll look at what's going well, where you might be getting stuck, and what could help strengthen your connection moving forward. You'll leave with a clearer picture of your relationship and some practical ideas to take away.